Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Still Torn

Same deal today. My 3 lead follies are between 13-18, so they'll trigger me tomorrow night. We have until then to decide what we want to do.

We were leaning toward moving forward with the IVF, but now after talking with my doctor today, I'm not so sure. He said something that is nagging at me. When I asked what he would recommend, he said, "I'd just hate for us to move forward with the IVF and it not work out and you second guess your decision."

I hadn't really thought about that. He said if we did IVF again, my response couldn't be worse. Well, THAT'S a bright side for you. ;-) There's part of me that just wants to be done already, but then there's part of me that says - well, we could have another shot at a baby.

We asked the doctor what he would do differently if we were to do another IVF cycle. He said he honestly didn't know. He wants to present my case to a panel to get his colleagues' input. Lovely - my body is so effed up that my fertility doctor doesn't even know what to do with me.

I'm supposed to go back tomorrow, but we're supposed to have ice. And given that it took me almost 2 hours to get there this morning with just a wee bit of snow (when it usually takes 15-20 mins), I'm not sure we'll make it. If we don't make it, they'll "estimate my follicle growth" and trigger me anyway. So, we have until tomorrow to figure all this out. I honestly don't know what to do...

6 comments:

Karen said...

Don't you wish sometimes they would just tell you what to do instead of giving you options? I wish it weren't so complicated. When I had to make decisions like this, I always tried to pick the one I'd regret least-the one that gave me less of that "sick tummy" feel. I hope you find peace with whatever you decide.

Carissa said...

I tend to err on the side of caution and leave myself with the most options. Only you know what works for you. Your hesitation makes me think you're not ready for this to be your last shot and have this all be over... but I could be wrong. I think you know what you want though. Whatever you choose we will support you. There is no "easy" answer, but I'm confident you will make the right choice for you.

Mindy said...

I don't have any good advice for you. Just wanted to say I'm sorry you're faced with this decision at all. Best of luck to you.

Mirabel's Parents said...

i guess i agree with your doctor and daisy. you definitely don't want to second guess your decision. ugh. i'm so sorry you are stuck in this right now...

Anonymous said...

I totally agree that sometimes it is just easier if the experts would just simply say do this, or do that. I wonder what they would say if you asked them,"What would you do if you were in my shoes?" I hate to sound stupid, but is there any way they could go ahead and freeze the 3 good ones? I hear what you are saying in that it only takes one egg, and it would be so nice if they could at least save the 3 for the next one if you decide to go that route.

Steph said...

I don't know what to tell you. On the one hand if this is as bad as he thinks you can get for response, i would say iui. But I have also known a small handful of women to only get two follies and have them work out somehow.
I understand your desire to be done.
I haven't been in your situation so I can't tell you what I would do.
But i also don't want you to regret anything. ugh.